Tuesday, February 17, 2015

Red Phoenix: 5 Reasons Christian Couples Should Not Be Shamed for Enjoying 50 Shades of Grey



Here’s what I know, speaking only from my own experience and understanding as a Christian:

Imagination is from God 
He gave us minds that contemplate the Universe although we can’t see it beyond the confines of this Earth. I think the same can be said about enjoying erotic fantasies in a book/movie. There is no harm as long as the persons involved keep in mind it is just fantasy, which main purpose is to bring you closer to your spouse.

God is Love 
The Creator who made us gave us bodies that experience pleasure and I firmly believe He wants us to enjoy the bodies we’ve been given. What harm is there when a married couple decides to explore the world of sensation together as long as both are consenting and committed to each other?

When in Doubt Trust the Spirit
It seems as if some in the Christian community feel the need to protect people from themselves, but in the end we have to trust God. Christians do not follow man; we follow the Creator of the Universe. He checks our spirits when we step off the path He is guiding us on. We have to trust that if Christians feel that something is “harmful” to them, that they will be responsible and pull back.

We Are Not To Judge 
Even though Jesus created wine from water, there are those who can’t drink a drop of liquor without losing control. Does that mean all of us must stop drinking wine? No, but those that struggle with it must listen to their spirits and avoid the trigger. If you feel seeing 50 Shades is a trigger for you, don’t see it. However, that does not give you the right to shame others that do. We are not to judge each other, Jesus speaks specifically about that!

God Gave Us a Brain
Woman and men checking out the movie understand that it is fiction. This is a romantic film with a touch of kinky sex. That’s it.


* FYI, I am a happily married Christian woman who plans to see the movie next week.

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    1. Thanks, FeFe. Just speaking from the heart. ~Red

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  2. My hubby and I went on Valentine's night. I so agree with you!

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  3. Words of wisdom. Love your spirit Red Phoenix!

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    1. Just sad when people don't give each other the benefit of the doubt. ~Red

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  4. Thanks Red, very well said.

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  5. Totally agree Red. Fifty shades and the Brie series changed my perspective and helped me realize that I wanted and needed to submit to my husband as a Christian and sexually. It has made our sex life truly amazing even after 25 years of marriage it is better now than ever!

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  6. Love this and completely agree Red.

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  7. Agreed! Well said Red! We are all different for a reason!

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  8. So appreciate your words. Hubby and I saw the movie the day it released. Loved it. But the point about not judging.... well, that was a balm. Thank you. I needed that.

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  9. What I find disturbing is that if you ask folks who are condemning 50 Shades, more often than not you will find that they have neither read the books nor intend to see the film. Ignorance breeds fear, yes? Ask if they would like to read a story about romance and redemption.

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    1. I agree, you cannot have an opinion about something unless you have seen it. Fear of the unknown seems to be a motivating factor for many condemning it. ~Red

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